{"id":38673,"date":"2023-01-26T12:47:11","date_gmt":"2023-01-26T12:47:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/potentialplusuk.org\/?p=38673"},"modified":"2024-10-03T09:52:48","modified_gmt":"2024-10-03T08:52:48","slug":"parent-wellbeing-a-resource-round-up-to-reassure-and-relax","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/potentialplusuk.org\/index.php\/2023\/01\/26\/parent-wellbeing-a-resource-round-up-to-reassure-and-relax\/","title":{"rendered":"Parent Wellbeing \u2013 A Resource Round-up to Reassure and Relax"},"content":{"rendered":"

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=””]Some days, raising a child with high learning potential can feel like it\u2019s drowning you under a huge wave of demands. The quirky needs, complex questions and high energy of a young \u2018bright spark\u2019 can lead you to doubt yourself and neglect your wellbeing.<\/p>\n

As described in Understand Your Challenges<\/a> from Potential Plus UK\u2019s High Learning Potential Parenting blog series, many parents feel drained and ask:<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat is wrong with\u00a0me<\/strong> that I can\u2019t find the energy or patience like other parents?\u201d or \u201cI try so much harder than my friends\u201d [\u2026] <\/em>Bringing with them an unusual intensity, children with high learning potential can exhaust you with their mental and\/or physical energy, low need for sleep and high need for being tidied up after! <\/em><\/p>\n

You are not alone. But remember that alongside your commitment to look after your child and their friendships, it is also super-important for you to look after yourself <\/em>and the important relationships in your life.<\/p>\n

Trusted Back-up <\/strong><\/p>\n

One of the challenges of parenting a high potential learner can be trying to understand how respect for adults is not automatic and needs to be \u2018earned\u2019. This can be tough on you as a primary carer \u2013 additionally so as friends, family or older relatives can become insulted and reluctant to offer you childcare support.<\/p>\n

Find understanding parents and carers in your situation to talk to about this. Maybe this can happen through events<\/a>, such as Potential Plus UK\u2019s in-person family\u00a0days or virtual \u2018coffee mornings\u2019 and \u2018fireside chats\u2019 just for grown-ups! As the Parenting High Learning Potential Children<\/a> advice sheet explains:<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is important that all caregivers are adequately supported. Find your own support network; feeling that you are not alone is vital\u201d. <\/em><\/p>\n

Family and friends may not understand your child\u2019s quirks the way you do, but don\u2019t drift from having reliable back-up. Knowing what to say about their high learning potential<\/a> to other adults might help you to avoid tensions and misunderstanding; you do need to be able to call upon trusted child care occasionally. It is so important to have the odd quiet night in with your partner \u2013 or loud night out with friends!<\/p>\n

Physical and Mental Wellbeing<\/strong><\/p>\n

Wellbeing for Carers<\/a> advises that:<\/p>\n

\u201cThe important thing is to take your own wellbeing very seriously, so that you have the mental and physical strength to cope calmly and lovingly \u2013 not just with your own challenges, but also with those of your high potential young person.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

On a basic level, support your health by carrying out any necessary household safety checks and get to all your medical appointments. Just a reminder, though; don\u2019t use up all your \u2018babysitting\u2019 favours for the doctor, dentist or the car\u2019s MOT! You need some exercise, socialising and proper downtime, too, even if sometimes it\u2019s just for an hour while you share out parenting duties and quietly read a book.<\/p>\n

Teamwork! <\/strong><\/p>\n

It has been scientifically shown to be beneficial to get outdoors and \u2018consciously\u2019 in nature. If you get very little alone time, the blog Wellbeing and Nature \u2013 Indoors and Out!<\/a> could prompt you to combine your own mentally and physically beneficial outdoor adventures with entertaining your children. Sometimes you have to think creatively to find opportunities!<\/p>\n

Other ideas might be listening to a kids meditation podcast together, attending a yoga class where baby can sleep alongside or joining a book club or swimming sessions with an older child.<\/p>\n

In terms of emotional health, it can be easy to question your efforts if every day seems like an exhausting mystery! Being willing to grow your self-esteem alongside your young high potential learner has the potential to help both of you gain inner peace and mutual respect as you discover how to believe in yourself<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Parental Guilt <\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotional burdens like guilt can be the hardest to put down. Parents describe feeling totally unequipped to cater for the unique demands of a child who is always one step ahead. Some feel ashamed for needing the internet to answer their young child\u2019s questions or inadequate in the face of their teenager\u2019s feisty debates.<\/p>\n

There are so many triggers that can make parents feel guilty. \u201cWhile your child with high learning potential often gives you the impression that they can never squeeze enough out of their day, you sometimes feel that you can never give them enough\u201d<\/em> \u2026 but give yourself a break and\u00a0let your guilt go!<\/a><\/p>\n

Empty Battery! <\/strong><\/p>\n

Not only do these bright sparks squeeze every drop out of their day, often they don\u2019t sleep at night either. It is perfectly understandable to feel miserable if you are sleep deprived.<\/p>\n

Sleep Deprivation in Parents<\/a> recognises that:<\/p>\n

\u201cHowever disheartening it can be to feel your friends, family and GP don\u2019t understand the true nature and depth of your sleep issues, in some households, a further layer of stress can be the knock-on reaction of a partner, other children or elderly relatives. As you look out for everyone\u2019s needs, it is crucial you also look out for your own [..and..] occasionally get to sleep through the night in your own bed.\u201d\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n

When you are so tired, it is very easy to feel unable to cope with the tidal wave of daily demands on you.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you\u2019ve been trying to teach your young \u2018bright spark\u2019 about resilience and growth mindset? Then treat yourself and apply the same thinking! Get a growth mindset of your own! With the help of \u201cCan\u2019t Cope?\u201d \u2013 Try Nurturing A Growth Mindset<\/a>, move from telling yourself you are \u2018not yet<\/em>\u2019 able to be a \u2018well being\u2019\u2026to happily agreeing that \u2018now<\/em>\u2019 I do look after my own wellbeing, too![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=””]Resource Roundup Links<\/strong>
\n(members need to log into the members area and visit the advice sheets index<\/a> to download advice sheets for free)<\/p>\n