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Being there for a young person singled out due to their ability<\/h4>\n

What is Bullying?<\/h3>\n

\u201cBullying is the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face-to-face or online<\/em>\u201d. (Anti-Bullying Alliance)<\/p>\n

Bullies target a \u2018difference\u2019. This may be rooted in established areas of wrongful discrimination, for example, disability, gender, race or sexuality. Or a bully may pick on a more personal aspect of being \u2018different\u2019 such as looks, a family situation \u2013 or having high learning potential.<\/p>\n

Bullying comes in many different forms, including verbal, physical, emotional and cyberbullying. Examples of these include: name-calling, belittling, spreading rumours, intimidation, threatening gestures, pushing, kicking, inappropriate touching, trickery, indirect actions, stealing property, social exclusion, offensive texting and sharing private photos or information online. One-off incidents can be extremely distressing but are unlikely to be classed as bullying.<\/p>\n

High Learning Potential and Being \u2018Different\u2019<\/h3>\n

In some environments, having high learning potential is all it takes to stand out from the crowd and become the target of bullying behaviour. Often this comes down to a simple resentment towards academic successes or other achievements. In other cases, an (unknowing) ability to fire back complex responses to verbal abuse can cause a bully embarrassment and lead them to escalate conflict to \u2018keep face\u2019.<\/p>\n

In a school environment, able students tend to thrive in lessons, wanting others to behave so that they can concentrate. This may set them apart, as will seeming to be the \u201cteacher\u2019s pet\u201d or being chosen to represent the school.<\/p>\n

Outside of school, from young children to young adults, high potential learners are likely to have hobbies that buck the trend. The periodic table, Latin, advanced astronomy or in-depth knowledge of a film genre will set them apart from the norms of a peer group primarily interested in gossip, football or social media trends.<\/p>\n

The Effects of Bullying in a High Potential Learner<\/h3>\n

There are infinite ways in which a victim of bullying might react and the assault on mental (and possibly physical) wellbeing must be robustly supported. However, when dealing specifically with a high learning potential child, strong reactions and high sensitivities to daily life can be common, making the complex challenges of bullying even more intense.<\/p>\n

Be vigilant for signs that your child is stifling their abilities or mocking the successes of others. Squashing their strengths, (be they academic, intellectual, sporting or in any other area), is a common ploy to fit in with a peer group, form friendships \u2013 and avoid being targeted by bullies.<\/p>\n

It may help to learn more about the \u2018Underground\u2019 child, one of six gifted and talented student profiles observed by Drs Betts and Neihart. See Supporting the Differing Profiles of Children with High Learning Potential <\/a>\u00a0or download the fact sheet PA518 Supporting Underground Profile High Learning Potential Children<\/a> (free to members).<\/p>\n

A different personality will assume that the bully is speaking \u2018the truth\u2019. It is common for children with high learning potential to take statements as facts and assume that others have researched an opinion as fully as they would. Thus, victims may well be convinced from the outset that any insults are accurate; it may take a lot of gentle \u2018true facts\u2019 from parents and carers to counteract these mistaken beliefs.<\/p>\n

Worryingly, a child might also react to abuse by beginning to dislike themselves for being academically advanced. It is important in such cases to celebrate their identity and boost their self-esteem, see
\nI Believe in Me!\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

Alternatively, a victim can feel responsible for aggravating the bully and try (obviously fruitlessly) to remedy the situation. This can trigger the stressful perfectionism that often plagues young people of high ability, then sparking a sense of failure, guilt or harmful self-blame. They may internalise this damaging situation and either choose to stay quiet or simply not think to mention it. Either way, they need support.<\/p>\n

How Do I Support a Victim of Bullying?<\/h3>\n

It is crucial to keep reassuring a child victim of bullying that the situation is unacceptable and is not their fault. Reinforce that they are fully supported and encourage them to feel proud of themselves and their achievements.<\/p>\n